On Wednesday we talked about what masculinity means and what good vs. bad masculinity. We decided that an idea of a “good man” would be someone like Noah from the Notebook. On the other hand we picked Danny Zuko to depict “bad masculinity”. Masculinity to me is just a load of bull crap. For a man to have to come off as “manly” in order to be accepted ad respected is absolute absurd. Boys are expected to be emotionless, heartless, and just all around jerks. If they are then they get to be considered “THE man”. If a guy even shows an ounce of emotion they are called a sissy and told to man up. If they don’t go to the gym to get “swole” they are weak. If they eat salads they get told they are a girl. I don’t know when we started defining masculinity by those standards but I just don’t see how that is even relatable. Masculinity to me is a physical attribute. It isn’t based on anything remotely close to any of my examples. Masculinity can vary from guy to guy. To me it seems like more of an individualized thing. I think masculinity should be based off of what an individual feels makes them manly. If taking ballet classes is what “Jerry” does and it makes him feel masculine… AWESOME. Great for him. Never should a boy, man, be told how to “be masculine”. Never should a man be told what it takes and how he can improve their masculinity. End of story.